update from previous entry friday i drove him up north to another treatment center. he will be there for 8 weeks. not long enough, in my estimation, but it beats the other times he has gone, where the most he has stayed was 28 days. no, I'm not really optimistic about it, because we've done this before. it's really a situation for me where i no longer believe that love is enough to sustain the marriage. it's all pretty much up to him. he can get sober and work on staying that way i think my youngest two will understand. our oldest will probably take it the hardest, but that is because his best friend's parents are in the process of getting a divorce. oddly enough we share the same wedding anniversary, right down to the year, so i'm sure there will be comparisons galore, if we end our marriage. as sad as i feel, i also have the feeling that a huge weight has been lifted from my chest and my shoulders. it's all very clear now. he's either sober as a recovering alcoholic and my husband, or he's an active and fully functioning alcoholic, in which we are no longer together. i'm fairly certain i can live with my decision. his psychologist called from the treatment center a little while ago. seems shrewd. we had a nice conversation, so different from the first time this happened, back in 2003. it's highly possible that my husband was in the room and listening to everything i said. that's what happened last time and i felt ambushed, because he called me and tried to rip my head off over the phone. and i was a rehab virgin back then, so i thought everything was my fault. so this time, well, if he was listening then he needed to hear what i said. i also suggested that the you know i am tired of all of this alcoholism shit. i'm tired of living it and i'm tired of writing about it. back again, no real improvement - 2011-06-02 |
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